Tuesday, December 6, 2011

random "complaints"

doesn't every yeshiva kid learn that we aren't supposed to kneel?

from whence came this trend of these frum guys proposing on one knee? it's like, so goyish. blech.

and I am really "fed up" with the misuse of quotation marks on "store" signs.

for example:
please give your "key tags" to the cashier at the register.
Specials: "turkey" salad, "chicken" salad.

and my favorite:
mazel tov to Yanky on his new baby "boy".

Tuesday, March 2, 2010


creative juices have run out.

all future posts will be on my other blog, daughtersintheparsha.blogspot.com

so long dear followers

Thursday, January 14, 2010

He Picks the Good Ones

A special human being passed away last night.

He was someone my family admired and cared for greatly. He was a wonderful, kind person with a joy for life that was infectious.

This man was Jewish but not religious. He was good to my family.

I believe that G-d puts people in this world for us to learn from.

But He picks the good ones and takes them back too soon.

Thursday, December 31, 2009

Paying for what??

(If you know anything about this and can elucidate or correct me, please do so)

So I just heard about a kollel incentive: a young kollel member will get paid a certain stipend if he remains in Yeshiva for a full week. This is in a particular kollel somewhere in the United States.


For a long, long, time, so all of you can actually digest what I just wrote.

Need I comment? But I will, anyway.

Clearly, taking off to fly to Chicago for a sibling's wedding is okay.
Coming in late because your wife had a baby is also acceptable.

But apparently, maybe just in this kollel, too many young men are not there for a full week at a time.

So wouldn't it make sense for the Yeshiva, instead of soliciting MORE funds from the community to pay for this incentive, to gently tell this kollel member that perhaps it is time for him to go out and get a job?

Because he will then learn that there are only so many times your boss will allow you to take off, or to take long breaks. After that, it is find another job.

And does this appear, to anyone else besides me, as a very junior high school type of incentive?
With the extra money, do they get raffle tickets for a donut?

Thursday, November 12, 2009


And that is not said sarcastically, I really mean it. But do you have any idea how much certain speakers charge to speak? Alot. A very lot.

How much do you think is reasonable? Do you think that since it is their parnossa they are entitled to the equivalent of a day or week's salary?

I attended a (non-jewish) workshop which encourages people to give back to the community by speaking about what they learned at the workshop. The stipend sometimes provided is $20-$50. Okay, that's quite low. But some speakers in our community- speaking about hashkofa-receive anywhere from $750-$3000. yup, people, didn't add extra zeros by mistake!! three thousand buckaroos for a one hour speech.Does their spittle spews solid gold bars?

I would like to know who are the organizers of these speeches- that when they call to arrange a speaker, and the speaker names his/her price, the organizer doesn't just snort and hang up.

Remember the Emperor's New Clothes? We need a little boy, in adult form, to shout out the truth.

this is nuts! A one hour speech about maisalach or hashkafa should earn as much as $2500- which is 1/4 of one child's tuition! One month of a Rebbi's salary! Shabbos meals for loads of poor families.

If your response is, hey, this is how they pay THEIR tuition, by THEIR shabbos food, I say, so what. It bothers me.

Cost of hiring an inspiring speaker: $2500
Cost of printing, ads, mailings $1000
Cost of sound system $800
Cost of refreshments: $100

Cost of spiritual development and creating better jews: Priceless, of course. Which means the speakers should all charge so much less price (was that really cheesy?)

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Mommas Shopping in Rockland Kosher

Rockland Kosher is in what my kids call the Kosher Mall- an indoor mall. But not one with arcades and bars and shops you run past when you go with your teenage sons. It has a shoe store, shoe repair, cell phone store, linen, health food, window coverings, kids clothes, jewelry, nice jewish businesses. And a catering hall.

So often, when a Simcha is over, or winding down, you will see well dressed couples shopping for cereal, bread, milk, and snacks. At 10:00 at night. Which is what I was doing when I saw three such couples. Let me explain that on Thursday nights, this store is filled mainly with men. Almost all Chassidish. That is the bulk of their clientele. But of course everyone is welcome to shop there. (though there is a sign posted requesting appropriate dress; sleeves, no shorts, etc). I am cool with that, they can have their standards. Not all mine, but so what!

But I have a problem with the Hot Mommas who come in after a simcha, wearing their "zonah" shoes with heels that could impale a human being and bleed him to death. And please tell me when the covering your knee standard disappeared? Hello, these are people from the parts of Monsey that are NOT modern orthodox! Whose husbands wear hats and whose kids go to the regular yeshivos here! Whose Bais Medrash boys go to right wing Batei Medrashim! (or will when they are old enough). Maybe I am biased (or do I mean jealous) because if I wore shoes that high I would fall on my face. And my knees aren't my best feature, so I like to keep them neatly covered. It also disturbs me because some of these women are nearing 40! I don't begrudge 40 year old women who look terrific and know how to dress well, not at all! Kol Hakovod! But this is too much a teen age look. For how many years can you STILL be lashing out against your Bais Yaakov Teachers??

I felt sad, more than anything else. I recognized some of the women. and I am pretty sure that a few years ago, their knees were covered. And they didn't wear sleazy shoes.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Obnoxious People

There are some people who are just born, and remain obnoxious all their lives.

They ALWAYS have to make a nasty comment. Or point out something mean, even if everyone knows it and sees it and is aware of it. Count on the petty nasty person to feel the need to express it, verbalize it. This kind of individual probably has a sense of humor, lots of friends, and isn't overtly mean. Just the "shtuching" type.

Like when you are in elementary school, and she announces to the class, "I want to give the Bigmouth Award of the year to XXXX because she clearly wins it in this class!" ha ha ho ho. Let's embarrass someone and see if they laugh at being the butt of your jokes.

But sometimes as this person grows up, they become more subtle. You know the type, don't you? Like, they see you when you are 6 months pregnant and showing, and they say (at a bus stop or on line at PTA), "hey, mazel tov! Now I understand why your daughter told us every Sunday in carpool that you vomit every morning! B'sha'a Tova!". The truth is, people don't know how to react to this.

They enjoy pointing out embarrassing situations, minor faults in your children, etc. etc.

And thankfully, for every stupid person like this, there are handsful of polite, nice, thoughtful individuals who may THINK "about time she put on maternity, she's been green and gagging for four months" but they just focus on the positive and say, Abigezunt!

But perhaps it is healthy to meet up with a person like this every now and then. Because you walk away thinking more carefully about how to talk to people. And thinking about what NOT to say to someone.